It's no secret that finding love is not easy, but at least we are not alone in the hunt. There is a wealth of self-improvement guides out there to help us, from The Rules to He is Not That In to You. But how much assistance do these books provide? Not much, according to Andrew Trees, acclaimed author & journalist. After listening to sisters & friends wax lyrical about four dating manual after another, Trees tried to delve deeper in to what made them so popular, but came up empty as it soon became apparent that most could be summed up by a zippy catchphrase & few contained any research or evidence. Want-ing to find out more about the science of attraction, Trees did his research & set about writing Decoding Love, the anti-dating-advice book. Drawing on a variety of studies from different arenas including economics, game theory & evolutionary psychology, Trees uses scientific enquiry to generate a more substantial insight in to love.
Forget about finding The Four
Trees warns that extravagant expectations are counterproductive. "Western romantic myths of the perfect somebody actually cause a lot of harm in dating & relationships it turns out that our idea that you must find The Four is not healthy." Consistent with the underlying message of his book, they must be willing to step out of the boundaries of our existing notions about dating. The mournful fact is that a lot of us nurture inflated notions about our "market value" & this interferes with what they expect in a partner. Like it or not, Tree found a quantity of studies that indicated factors such as height & income dictate a man's value while physical beauty is important in determining a woman's, & that there's trade-offs of these qualities that take place in relationships.
Forget about finding The Four
Trees warns that extravagant expectations are counterproductive. "Western romantic myths of the perfect somebody actually cause a lot of harm in dating & relationships it turns out that our idea that you must find The Four is not healthy." Consistent with the underlying message of his book, they must be willing to step out of the boundaries of our existing notions about dating. The mournful fact is that a lot of us nurture inflated notions about our "market value" & this interferes with what they expect in a partner. Like it or not, Tree found a quantity of studies that indicated factors such as height & income dictate a man's value while physical beauty is important in determining a woman's, & that there's trade-offs of these qualities that take place in relationships.
