The logical way to find love

It's no secret that finding love is not easy, but at least we are not alone in the hunt. There is a wealth of self-improvement guides out there to help us, from The Rules to He is Not That In to You. But how much assistance do these books provide? Not much, according to Andrew Trees, acclaimed author & journalist. After listening to sisters & friends wax lyrical about four dating manual after another, Trees tried to delve deeper in to what made them so popular, but came up empty as it soon became apparent that most could be summed up by a zippy catchphrase & few contained any research or evidence. Want-ing to find out more about the science of attraction, Trees did his research & set about writing Decoding Love, the anti-dating-advice book. Drawing on a variety of studies from different arenas including economics, game theory & evolutionary psychology, Trees uses scientific enquiry to generate a more substantial insight in to love.

Forget about finding The Four

Trees warns that extravagant expectations are counterproductive. "Western romantic myths of the perfect somebody actually cause a lot of harm in dating & relationships it turns out that our idea that you must find The Four is not healthy." Consistent with the underlying message of his book, they must be willing to step out of the boundaries of our existing notions about dating. The mournful fact is that a lot of us nurture inflated notions about our "market value" & this interferes with what they expect in a partner. Like it or not, Tree found a quantity of studies that indicated factors such as height & income dictate a man's value while physical beauty is important in determining a woman's, & that there's trade-offs of these qualities that take place in relationships.

It’s Hard To Pretend I’m OK When the Truth is I’m Not

In the past, I thought love is patient and willing to wait till the end. But after almost 18 years in Canada, I realized that true love really hurts, especially if you saw the person you love has found someone else. A promise indeed is made to be broken. It’s hard to pretend that you’re happy but deep inside, your heart is aching. It’s just like you’re hit by thousands of needles. *major ouch*

When I was young, I had a friend named Robert. Actually he’s my best friend. However, as time goes by I felt something different for him. Yet, I’m really shy to tell him the truth, that I have a crush on him.

He’s a good looking guy with teary eyes and fair complexion. Actually, he has all the traits I’m looking for a guy. But then, there’s a single problem. At that time, I was about to migrate to Canada to manage my dad’s wholesale clothing business.

Just the same, I told Robert how I felt about him. I told him he was everything I was looking for in a guy. I was surprised because he hugged me too tight and gave me a cute bracelet, asking me to keep it until the day I came back from Canada. He told me that no matter how many years it will take, he’s willing to wait for me.

Fast forward to 18 years, I came back to San Diego due to a financial crisis. My dad’s wholesale clothing business went bankrupt. I came back to the old house and looked if Robert was still there. But instead of finding Robert, I saw a girl named Jane. I asked her about Robert and according to her, Robert is her boyfriend. After long years of waiting, I realized that I’m so stupid.

It was only then that I finally gave in to the long years of pain and sadness I felt of being away from Robert. Tears fell down from my eyes, and I didn’t even bother to stop it. When Robert finally came, I pretend that was ok. I forced myself to be happy for him, but I just can’t. When I left their house, I left a part of me in there. I’m still trying to get back the love I lost until now. I still love him so much. Yet, it’s hard to accept the truth that his heart belongs to another woman.

A Baby – Why Not?

Good day, it’s me again. I hope you are all in good condition. For this week, I just want to share something cute.

That was last Monday when I was reading a baby magazine. But then, my attention is not about what I was reading.

At one side of my mind, an idea came about having a baby…Yes, and that thing is so exciting…remember I will get marry this coming June…

So it’s five months from now right? And I my plan for the honeymoon was already done too… One thing missing…

A BABY..! I was just wondering what would be little one looks like. I have no idea if that would be a boy or a girl…

But then, If I am given a chance, I would choose a girl…you would ask why..
It’s because, I have so many dreams for her…

First of all, I want her to manage my wholesale clothing business here in San Diego, California…

Next I want her to become a super model someday…someone like Misa Campo or Lea Dizon…and many more...

I don’t care if the world will curse me because of these things…But it’s me and it’s only a dream… you know, there’s nothing wrong with dreaming…

I am also excited to hug her with my arms and to kiss her cheeks…My soon-to-prince?

I don’t know if he’s also dreaming about having a baby or maybe he’s just thinking about expanding our wholesale clothing store…but I think he is.

You would ask what would be her name…I would say “Allie”.. My favorite character in the story “The Notebook” LOL…

But then, I don’t want her to suffer what Allie did…I will respect whatever her decision is, career, hobbies and of course love life…

Can’t wait for my soon-to-be baby!

My Best Valentine’s Day Ever

I think my best Valentine’s Day was in 2001. That was the time when my husband Hardy treated me to a date. And you know where the place was? Fisherman’s Warf California. It was not just a simple date, but a date with a twist.

It was just 7 days after our honeymoon, so decided on making Valentines as an extension of our honeymoon. We started the day early by taking a ride to Pier 39. When we reached the place, we went for a bay cruise. Boy that was fantastic! While watching romantic scenes from the boat, I took some photographs of the sea lions near the bay.

It was already 9 o’clock in the morning when Hardy took me to the wax museum. It was awesome! When we entered the museum, hundreds of wax icons including famous celebrities like Angelina Jolie and Paris Hilton paraded the hallways. There are also wax figures of famous leaders, musicians, artists and out-of-this world creatures.

We spent almost 2 hours there and after that, shopping time! While walking down the street, I saw a lot of wholesale clothing stores that have great selection of clothes from famous designers. I got a brand new pair of designer shoes, courtesy of you my husband.

The real date happened that night. While riding a 100feet cable car, Hardy hugged me tight and blew the magic words “I love you”. What’s more romantic is when we’re at the top of the tower it looked like a scene from the movie Titanic.

I can say that I’m the luckiest woman in the world, not only by having a successful wholesale clothing business here in San Diego, but also by having Hardy as my husband.

Reflection

Reflection is everything. You might not see it with your naked eye but still you’ll feel the same every time you encountered such things. If you see impossible things, you’re sure capable to make it possible…reflection is magic! Magic to make things better, to correct mistakes and to change overall concepts…


Not all of us are born rich. It’s hard to explain using literal words. But then, as you observe in our surrounding you’ll be able to know why. But why is that so?

For me there’s only one reason…it’s destiny.. You’re born to be poor or whatsoever, then there’s no one to blame about it…about your situation..not GOD, not your parents and not evil.

Reflection has several angles. It’s either magic or lies.. Would you believe if you raise your right hand, your reflection will raise the left one?

Try to look at the mirror and you’ll find the answer. Just like the status of life.. My name is Jenna, I know I belong to the middle class life. ..

My father is an owner of a wholesale clothing business and my mother is a full time teacher….I’m sure, there are three reflections of me… a middle class a poor one and the rich one..

And even if you’re contrast with my concept I’m sure you also have three reflections all in all. Confusing right? But for me, reflections are not only seen in the mirror or in whatsoever that produce adjacent images. Reflection is in our mind, body and soul…

I’ve read stories in books and I’m inspired with some of them…some of them teach real life skills and some of them develop one’s personality.

I know I’m just an average student from a simple school. But then, I love reading and writing.

In one of my reading session, I’ve read the story of two dads on different levels of life. The one belongs to higher class and the one belongs to lower class..

They’re actually brothers yet they’ve no idea about it because they’re separated by unexpected disaster 26 years ago.

The story happened in Germany.. This story is based from reality…Leo plays as rich in the story while Leon plays the poor one…

Leo is working as a manager of biggest multinational wholesale clothing company in Germany while Leon has nothing even money to buy food.

He lives on the street side and earning money from getting tips while assisting motorists out there. One time, their path crosses.. Leon asks even a single cent to Leo yet he ignores it “why not work and earn money?’ he answered…

But Leon is out of his mind…so he keeps on asking until Leo told his bodyguard to teach Leon a Lesson.

Using the gun’s handle, the bodyguard knocks Leon’s face which resulted into a huge wound on his face…Leon collapsed to the street…

As time goes by, Leon works hard until he found a stable job…a messenger from a textile business…and after 14 years, he is now the manager of his own company….for the second time around. Their path crosses again…but this time not on the street but on a meeting…

At that time, Leo’s company was then collapsing so he decided to sell his shares..without even know that hiding behind Mr. Cullen’s name was Leon…who’s now a manager …and not a beggar..Leo was asking for additional prices and Leon give it..

At that time, Leon already knew that they were brothers so he gives the payment plus the shares without owing anything….

Yes, and despite of what Leo has done to him. Still he’s kind enough to give what his brother wants..

The reflection here in the story is attitude of the two characters…reflections are not always the same… oftentimes it differs from time to time…how could you imagine giving too much despite of all?

If I were Leon, I will smack the money on his brother’s face…but see how reflections fall in one’s life…?Leon have not done what I think is right…but he has a different reflection on his mind…not just because Leo is his brother…

After all, reflection is a very important concept to humans…what’s your reflection? Is it good or is it bad?

Anyway, regardless of your reflection it’s always advised to do good… but what is good?
The one which is not bad and the one which is better…not all better are right but all the right things are sure better…

“I Wanna Grow Old With You Till The Last Leaf Fall”

Howdy my beloved readers, it’s been a couple of days since my last post. Today, I wanna share to you a love song. But before that, I just want to ask a simple question first. Have you been in love? I surely have and the feeling is indescribable.

You might be surprised if I say the heaven opened its door for me.LOL! But it’s true. It seems like my days are always good every time I saw the one I love.

Anyway, back to the song. Have you heard the song “I want grow old with you” by Adam Sandler? If not, then it’s high time to do go look for it. I remembered when minelove used to sing this song to me while holding my hands. I feel “hoity-toity” gosh, he’s so sweet. What’s more romantic is he gave me 3 pieces of my favorite flower, TULIPS.

I was so surprised when he sang that song to me because he has no idea about it was my favorite song. I remembered the last time I heard the song. I was in a wholesale clothing store looking for skirts. If I could only bring back time, I want to experience that happy moment together with my baby again. Not in a wholesale clothing store, but in a romantic place.

If there’s someone whom I want to grow old with that would be you, Baby. Thanks to Adam for creating this wonderful song.

Finally, Our Fabulous Honeymoon In California’s Wine Valley

A few more months, and I get to be a doting wife to my handsome prince. We’ve planned a simple, romantic wedding in June with just our closest friends and family in attendance. We want it to be intimate as much as possible, so no elaborate wedding rituals for us. My fiancé don’t know about this yet, but I’m planning out our honeymoon somewhat different from what we talked about. So, keep your lips sealed if you’re someone we know.

The idea for this honeymoon was something that came to me just last month. I was shopping at this wholesale clothing store for winter clothes and shoes when suddenly a thought came to me. It’ll practically be summer when we’ll get married and the skimpy garments that caught my attention in the store will be perfect for our first night together. So, I secretly bought these sexy outfits and booked a weeklong trip to California’s Wine Valley. I actually have this secret passion for wines, so I’m sure my fiancée won’t have anything against this sudden change in our plans.

I know a play perfect for us to stay—my aunt’s vineyard. When I was still a kid, I used to spend my summers there picking grapes and running around the vineyard like a wild kid. I love the misty air in the vineyard in the morning; there’s something so romantic and mysterious about it. My grandpa and I used to pretend like we’re having a romantic dinner by the vineyard, and we’ll end up laughing all throughout dinner sharing silly stories, but mostly it’s grandpa who tells the stories and I’m just his avid listener.

But when he died, I stopped going there. It was just too sad and too painful for me to go back. I see him in almost everything in that vineyard. My aunt now runs the vineyard, and last I heard she has a wholesale clothing store nearby as well. She had actually invited me a lot of times to visit her. I guess this is the best time to finally accept that invitation.

I don’t know, but now that I have arranged our honeymoon there, I’m feeling a bit anxious. It has been 20 long years since I’ve been there. I’ll be like coming home for me. But I’m trying to shake off that anxiety until our wedding.

And come to think of it, this will be a great opportunity for me to share a part of myself and my family to my future husband. Who knows, maybe he’ll like it there and we’ll start our own wine business there. But that’s thinking too far ahead. There’s still a lot to arrange before the ‘big day’. I’ll leave the honeymoon-slash-wine-business concern for later.

Can’t wait for June!